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Jan 25, 2012
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by: Anonymous

I kind of experience some 'personal' feelings with my kendo...mainly why I stopped going to my dojo now.

It is not that the sensei is bad but somehow it just occasionally feels that yes I have done something that was bad in the past, but the sensei keeps the grudge like it is a matter of life and death so much so that it makes it impossible for me to make up with them.

On top of this, I find the very stern comments from the sensei makes me feel little self-worth; this can be the 'Japanese' culture to say such stern things to the point that I'd go home after the session and wonder just exactly why I'd want to continue with being subtly told that I'm an eyesore.

My current solution to this problem is to change dojo and start anew once of move home fairly soon; I may be 'running away' from the 'problem' but I think it feels more comfortable.

Kendo-Guide.Com: Thank you for sharing your personal matter. Sometimes your personality and your instructor’s personality don't match. Or maybe the way your instructor teaches doesn't suit you.

I don't completely agree with telling people off until they are emotionally beat. However it is also true that there are moments that I have to be very strong and tell my students don't want to hear.

Good or bad aside, people react to what you say and how you behave. Unless your teacher was just mean to you without any reason, there should be some reasons why he acted like that.

This is a very good opportunity for you to think what you've done. Of course, it is hard for you to see what you’ve done wrong because probably you don't think you've done anything wrong. That is why we really have to think it over and over.

I'm not saying you did something wrong. All I'm saying is this is a good opportunity for you to think about what you've done. This gives you time to think about yourself. Many people just blame others. If you think what your instructor did to you is not kendo, only blaming on others and not reviewing what you've done is not kendo either.

Just think what you could've done. You may have the same kind of situation in the future, what would you do then?

It is just like fighting different types of kendo. There are many types of kendo that you are not good at to fight against. You can't and should not avoid them. You have to learn how to fight them.

By doing so in kendo, we learn how to deal with different types of people in our lives.

I'm telling you the theory. And this is what we have to work on through kendō. I am still working on this. It is hard but it should be done. So you are not the only one. We are all working on improving ourselves.
Dec 06, 2011
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by: Tanno

Don't worry, my girl. For the sensei to not watch you over than his other students, it's common in every dojo. The sensei NEEDS to train not only you, but also the other students. And as he has a responsibility to teach them, he needs to WATCH them to check out if they're doing it right or wrong. A lot of senseis do it to improve their students.

And don't be shy to ask him about kendo. You can talk with him about it to get good advices and improve yourself.

Here are some hints from me. :)

If you have the ability of being sharp-eyed and can copy other kendokas' moves, then you might improve not only yourself, but you can also develop new techniques you might not use earlier. :)

And if you fight with your senpais and sensei (it also includes the foreign senseis), you'll notice many techniques you never know, but if you watch them closely, you might copy it. :)
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By your question, you seem to be in love with your sensei (I might be wrong) or in Kendo. Your feelings can be understandable once you show yourself of how hard you're training and you want to reach san dan (3rd Dan) in order to teach it to the next generation. You don't want to fight just because you want to be the strongest of all, but because of your Way of Kendo.

This you will understand in time. :)

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